What’s a Less Douchy Word for “Fiancé?”
So I know this is totally off topic and has nothing to do with nutrition, fitness or even Mr. Chow, but it’s something I need your opinion on.
Obviously I didn’t want to waste one of my three regularly-scheduled, on-topic posts, which is why I’m writing to you on the weekend. So here goes…
I feel like the word fiancé sounds totally pretentious, and quite frankly, a little douchy.
Is it just me?
I don’t think it is. I’ve talked to several other women — married, engaged and unattached — who all agree.
What’s weird is that boyfriend and husband don’t seem to carry that same connotation.
Referring to your betrothed as your “fiancé” though feels a little icky, like you’re trying to point out a new elevated social status.
I feel like it’s a word that should only be used in a french accent or by annoying socialites like Olivia Palermo.
It’s like how I feel when I tell someone I went to SoHo House for dinner…like a poser.
I always follow it up with a, “Yeah, but it was just for some dumb event. I’m totally not a member. And I went completely fangirl when I saw Jennifer Aniston there. They almost threw me out. Seriously.”
Yeah, that makes it better.
But what other options do you have really? Betrothed? I said that two sentences ago and I’m guessing half of you already logged off.
Intended? Soon-to-be-husband? Lover? Promised? None of those seem to make the situation any better.
My fiancé (for lack of a better word) and I jokingly call each other “Beyonce” occasionally, after deciding we wanted a term that was “beyond” the word fiancé.
If not, then you probably think I’m a major weirdo, which is why that term stays inside our humble abode.
I ask because I refer to him often on the blog and I need something to call him.
He doesn’t prefer me blasting his name on the internet and the time I called him “Groomzilla” didn’t go over so well (which further reinforces the fact that he is indeed a Groomzilla).
I used to call him “the BF.” What shall I call him now?
Significant other? SO? Is that too close to SOB? I’m at a loss.
Should I just suck it up and say fiancé?
If you have the time (and care) please weigh in below and let me know. And if you think I’m pretentious simply for writing this article, you’re welcome to express that opinion as well.